- Debbie Masner
How do you know you’re never going to drink again?
How do you know you’re never going to drink again? When do you get to the point where you know you are done with drinking? Are you really never going to drink again? Is that realistic for me?
These questions have come up recently in the Alcoholiday group and it’s so common I thought it would be helpful to share with you as well.
I’ve shared before about your brain hating ultimatums like NEVER, CAN’T EVER, SHOULD NEVER, and HAVE TO. You can check out the blog post here: Why drinking ultimatums don't work
Instead of I’m NEVER going to drink say I’m CHOOSING not to drink.
Instead of I HAVE TO change my drinking say I GET TO change my drinking.
Do you notice how it feels different to say something like “I choose not to drink” vs “I can’t drink?”
You are taking your power back when it’s something you are choosing to do and not being forced to do (by yourself or others).
A lot of people find it helpful to just focus on 30 days or 90 days and break "forever" up into small chunks. Out of curiosity what do you really want? Do you want to be a non-drinker or do you want to drink?
It might help to do a cost benefit worksheet when you feel like you are on the fence or the tipping point. 😉 This allows you to write out all the pros and cons of drinking or not drinking. You may have also heard it referred to as decisional balance.
The button below is fillable cost benefit worksheet you can use. This is something you can do anytime you're on the fence about any change in your life. (By the way this is the kind of work we do in the Alcoholiday.)
Free resources from ATP:
100 Questions to Change Your Drinking